So after having THE MOST intense prom conversation with my friend Zoe, and basically us deciding who we HAVE to take to prom i realzied how much of an asshole i have been with not posting anything for the past like 2 weeks. Bad CJ! Bad Bad Bad! okay now that ive gotten scolding myself out of the way lets talk about dates.
DATES.
probably one of the scarier topics to talk about.
heres why:
so its stereotypically known that the guy usually asks the girl to prom/ any dance but hey! this isnt texas and this isnt the 70s!... or the 50s! so unless youre dreaming/ waiting for THIS:
(which not going to lie, id KILL if a guy asked me this way)
so eyah unless youre waiting for that, guys find it attractive when a girl asks a guy... especially to prom.
thinbk about it:
1) confidence is hot. ive said it before ill say it again. confidence is hot. any girl that can break the thresh hold of typical teenage behavior and do what they want as opposed to whats been done, can cause an guy to go weak in the knees
2) guys are lazy. plain and simple. the less work and worrying they have to do, the better.
think about it.
so heres what zoe and i decided:
if noone asks us before april 1st, were going to ask. this way, it gives guys time to be masculine and do what they feel is right but if they dont do it by then, were taking matters into our own hands.
wanna go with a certain guy but want to be asked?
heres a tip i actually gave zoe tonight.
so zoe wants to go with this guy kevin. and hes a great guy. hes super sweet and they were both at prom last year with different dates and at the afterprom he was really hospitable towards her just because before that point shes never been to a really house party so to speak, and he has. zoe and kevin go to the same church and she knew that last year he liked her because of certain little birdies and other hints, etc. So the next time shes seeing him is on valentines day (woo hoo! perfect day... eventhough im really not a fan of valentines day its self) at church. so i told zoe to maybe ask him to hang out after break next week (hes visiting his sister in england.. shes studying abroad there) but not be like omg lets hnag out. this is how i told her the conversation would naturally go:
Zoe: hey kevin (* initiating conversation shows confidence, and studies have show that saying the name of the person youre directly addressing makes them feel warmer and more positive towards you*)
Kevin: oh hey zoe
Z: whats up?
k: nothing really, dont wanna be here haha, how about you
Z: ahah same. so what are your plans for break? (guys love to talk about themselves... so fuel the fire... ask a question about him)
k: well im visiting my sister in england. im leaving in like 2 days
z: that sounds so interesting (notice how she didnt say cool.. interesting sounds more, well, interesting!) you must be pshyced!
K: yeah im so stoked to go
z: well id love to hear all about it when you get back (hinting at hanging out after he returns so he can talk more about himself. brilliant!)
k: yeah sure, that soudns great actually (ok lets be real here: this kid is SO nice. and im nto just saying that from this conversation... he really is. how could anyone with a beating heart reject an invitation to hang out? it works in her favor because he liked her last year and unless the person you like did something absolutely repulsive, theres no way you can just stop completely have feelings for said person)
z: great. well, i have to go but it was great seeing you, have fun in england! i cant wait to hear all about it ( leave him wanting more. by saying that you have to go first, does that because maybe he didnt want to end the conversation right then and there. plus if he ended it first, it makes you feel like the idiot... and noone wants that. also wishing him well is just polite and of course saying that you cant wait to hear about it will remind him of you future plans. its brilliant)
so use this as a template of some sort. mess with it how ever you want. if he says hes not doing anything over break, initiate plans by saying "well if you wanna get together over break ill be around too!" .. or someting like that. be creative! i cant think of every scenario! im only human!
so its 2 am ladies and gentlemen (?). i wish you goodnight and good luck on your date quest. dont lose hope!
T MINUS 49 days till zoe and I take the bull by the horns.
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